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is a wonderful booklet designed specifically for
teachers in pre-K through 5th grade in hopes that
they can help with the school adjustment of adoptive
children. It talks frankly about the history, image,
child, birth parents, insert comma and adoptive
parents. This booklet makes suggestions about what
teachers can do to help along the lines of setting
tones for acceptance; accurate general information;
sensitivity to certain school lessons (ex: family
trees); preparation to advocate for the children,
etc.
This
is an excellent resource for teachers. As the
parents of adopted children you may want to order
a copy for your teacher or school. The booklet
costs $7.00 each and can be ordered through
www.celebrateadoption.org.
For those of you who live
in the St. Louis area, we have a copy at the CHI
office you may come in and look at, if you wish
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| This
is a book that should be read by every adoptive
mother and dad. Whatever the age of your
child when adopted, whatever the time you have
already had together, Attaching
in Adoption is
a book that will prove helpful to your adoptive
family.
Deborah Gray is a clinical
social worker specializing in attachment, grief
and trauma. She has worked for 19 years
in children’s therapy, child placement, and foster
and adoption counseling. She has also been a therapeutic
foster parent. In Attaching
in Adoption,
Deborah shares
her experience via vignettes of adopted children’s
behaviors. She explains what is happening
from the child’s perspective and then she takes
it one step further than most books of this sort.
She offers solutions that are simple, straightforward
and have proven effective in similar cases.
She addresses the fears and concerns of adopted
children and shows parents how to help these kids
learn to become “family children.”
Parents whose children were adopted as infants
will also benefit greatly from this book.
Behaviors, which emerge in the toddler and in
preschool stages are addressed and, again, specific
solutions are offered.
Gray explains how the
emotional development of adopted children differs
from those who remain in intact families. She
tells parents how to determine if the family needs
counseling and how to locate the right professional.
Attaching in Adoption
is a book that parents
will read and re-read as their children grow into
“family boys and girls.”
This is a great book to
read as a waiting parent as you prepare yourself
to recognize some of the situations you will face
down the road. After you buy this book, write
your name in it in big letters. In your
enthusiasm, you will loan it to friends and family
members. But you will definitely want it back!
Mary House,
CHI, Chicago / Great Lakes Region |
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The Lost Daughters of China: Abandoned Girls,
Their Journey to America, and the Search for a Missing
Past
by Karin
Evans |
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Lost Daughters of China is that rare book that can
be many things to different people. Part memoir,
part travelogue, part East-West cultural commentary,
and part adoption how- to,
Karin Evans's book is greater than the sum of its
parts. Evans weaves together her experience of adopting
a Chinese infant with observations about Chinese
women's history and that country's restrictive,
if unevenly enforced, reproductive policies. She
and her husband adopted Kelly Xiao Yu in 1997, and
anyone curious about adopting from a Chinese orphanage--which
houses girls and disabled boys--will learn about
the mechanics and the emotional freight of the two-year
process. Borrowing an image from Chinese folklore,
Evans conveys herself, her husband, and their daughter
as tethered by a red string that yoked them across
an ocean and an equally awesome cultural divide.-Amazon.com
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The
Adoption Reader: Birth Mothers, Adoptive Mothers,
and Adopted Daughters Tell Their Stories
by Susan Wadia-Ells
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| Adoption
has always been a woman's issue. With eloquence
and conviction, more than 30 diverse birth mothers,
adoptive mothers, insert comma and adoptees tell
their adoption stories and explore what is a deeply
emotional, sometimes controversial, and always compelling
experience that affects millions of families and
individuals. |
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A Child's Journey through Placement
by Vera Fahlberg
MD |
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| This
book provides the foundation and the tools to help
professionals and parents support children for whom
the journey through adoption is a part of the road
to adulthood. |
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Helping Children Cope with Separation and
Loss
by Claudia
Jewett Jarratt and Dan Rosenberg (editor)
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book offers step-by-step guidance for any concerned
adult who wants to help a child talk about, cope
with, and recover from a loss. |
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Adopting the Older Child
by
Claudia L. Jewett |
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| This
book discusses expectations for those who wish to
open their hearts to an older waiting child. Issues
explored include adoption decision-making and processes,
adjustment, and behavior modification. |
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| The
Family of Adoption
by Joyce
Maguire Pavao |
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Joyce
Maguire Pavao dedicates her book The
Family of Adoption in
part to her two mothers, who died two weeks apart.
"They both died of secrecy," she writes.
"One could no longer talk, silenced by her
disease. One could no longer think or remember....
I love and cherish what each of my mothers endured
and imparted.... I refuse to have secrets and I
work to change a system that perpetrates them."
As adoption becomes
more discussed and less taboo, the emotional road
maps become clearer for adoptive families, birth
mothers, and children of adoption. The
Family of Adoption is
a gentle, essential addition to the literature that
will help guide families of adoption along the path.
- Ericka Lutz Amazon.com |
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I
Wish for You a Beautiful Life: Letters from
the Korean Birthmothers of Ae Ran Won to Their Children
edited by Sara Dorow
The author, Sara K. Dorow , February 16, 1999
A unique opportunity to hear Korean birth mothers' voices.
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I consider it an honor to be associated with this
important book, unique because it invites the reader
to hear and understand the voices of Korean women
who have made the difficult decision to place their
children for adoption. These letters are both heart-wrenching
and hopeful. In editing this collection, I wanted
to be mindful of the similarities of birth mother
experiences across time and place, but also respectful
of the unique context of Korea and of individual
birth mothers. But most of all, I wanted the letters
to speak for themselves--for adoptive parents and
mature adoptees to be able to interact openly and
thoughtfully with them. I hope that in the end this
collection is both challenging and helpful. |
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A
Passage to the Heart: Writings from Families with
Children from China
edited
by: Amy Klatzkin |
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author, Amy Klatzkin; amyk@alumni.stanford.org,
February 20, 1999
Writings from Families with Children from China
"A Passage to the Heart: Writings from Families
with Children from China" began as an e-mail
conversation among FCC newsletter editors. Within
a few months that conversation had turned into
a book of more than 100 articles from 24 adoptive
family support groups in the US, Canada, and
Britain.
The quality, range, and depth
of the writing far exceeded my expectations. There's
something in here for everyone whose life has
been touched by adoption from China: adoptive
parents, waiting parents, family, and friends. |
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Talking
With Young Children About Adoption
by
Mary Watkins and Susan Fisher, Ph.D. |
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Current wisdom holds
that adoptive parents should talk with their child
about adoption as early as possible. But no guidelines
exist to prepare parents for the various ways
their children might respond when these conversations
take place. In this wise and sympathetic book,
a clinical psychologist and a psychiatrist, both
adoptive mothers, discuss how young children make
sense of the fact that they are adopted, how it
might appear in their play, and what worries they
and their parents may have. Accounts by twenty
adoptive parents of conversations about adoption
with their children, from ages two to ten, graphically
convey what the process of sharing about adoption
is like.
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Voices
from Another Place: A Collection of Works
from a Generation Born in Korea and Adopted to Other
Countries
edited by Susan
Soon-Keum Cox
This book is written
by adult adoptees from Korea and captures their
thoughts and feelings as adults.
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| Raising Adopted Children: A Manual for Adoptive Parents
by Lois Ruskai
Melina |
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book covers current adoption research in child development,
psychology, sociology, and medicine, while focusing
on the experiences of adoptive families. |
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TO SHARE WITH CHILDREN |
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Mommy
Far, Mommy Near: An Adoption Story
by
Carol Antoinette Peacock
illustrated by Shawn Costello Brownell |
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Although
Elizabeth, a young Chinese girl, is secure in the
love of her adoptive Caucasian American family,
she still has questions. Why, if China is such a
big country, wasn't there room for all the babies?
Didn't her mother love her? Such questions surface
in games with her younger Chinese sister, in loving
give-and-take with her American mother, and in hurt
feelings after seeing a Chinese mother and daughter
at the playground. Decorated in floral patterns
and colored in lush, velvety hues, the thickly stroked,
realistic artwork expands on the text while heightening
the emotions it conveys. Elizabeth's misgivings
are met head-on by her adoptive mother's reassurance,
love, and thoughtful responses. The mother's tender
support not only reassures Elizabeth but will also
benefit other adoptees, especially those from Third
World countries, as it reinforces the efforts of
all loving, adoptive parents.
~Ellen Mandel From Booklist. |
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Happy Adoption Day!
by
John McCutcheon |
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is a children’s book that focuses on
international adoption and
shows a couple flying off to get their child and
bring the baby home “on that wonderful morn.”
There is a song that goes with the book and many
people have found great enjoyment singing the song
with their children and celebrating their family’s
beginning. The whole book is a celebration
of family that is remembered each year on the child’s
adoption day party. |
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Seeds of Love: For Brothers and Sisters of
International Adoption
by
Jill Chambers (Illustrator), Mary Ebejer Petertyl
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book helps brothers and sisters of international
adoption work through their feelings about being
separated from their parents during the time of
adoption. It also gives parents fun and practical
ideas for easing their children's anxiety before
adoption travel. |
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Over the Moon
by Karen Katz |
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| Katz
has written a book that is bright, happy, (comma)
and colorful about the adoption of their daughter
from Central America. It is suggested for
use between adults and children who have been adopted
in similar situations and emphasizes the “forever
family.” The book uses statements like “faraway
place” and “Forever and always we will be your mommy
and daddy. Forever and always you will be
our child.” The birth mother is also mentioned
and is described gently as a lady who “wasn’t able
to take care of you”. |
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Did
My First Mother Love Me?: A Story for an Adopted
Child
by Kathryn Ann
Miller |
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From
Horn Book
In the
issue-oriented book, Morgan again hears her birth
mother's letter explaining how much she loves Morgan
and why she made an adoption plan for her. Mediocre
pencil sketches accompany the overly sentimental
text, which includes a long afterword for adoptive
parents that gives guidance on the complex issue.
- Copyright © 1995
The Horn Book, Inc. All rights reserved. --
This text refers to the hardcover edition of this
title. |
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Feelings
by Aliki |
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| "Children
often have difficulty articulating emotions. That
fact is the underpinning for Aliki's catalog of
feelings, be they happy, sad, or somewhere in between".
-Booklist. -This
text refers to the library
binding edition of
this title. --Amazon.com |
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Horace
by Holly Keller |
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| Horace,
a leopard, is the adopted son of tiger parents.
Every night at bedtime Mama tells him how he came
to be their child. Horace always falls asleep before
the story ends. As Horace grows older, he begins
to wonder whether he belongs with his adoptive family.
One night he proves his own ending to the story
he has heard so often.
Full-color illustrations. Amazon.com |
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| How
I Was Adopted: Samantha's Story
by Joanna
Cole |
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| Sam
has a joyful story to tell, a story completely her
own, yet common to millions of families. It is a
story of how babies are born and how children grow,
a story of what makes people different and what
makes them the same. Most of all, this is a book
about love that invites young readers to learn and
to tell the stories of how they were adopted. Full
color. - Amazon.com
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| Just
Because I Am: A Child's Book of Affirmation
by Lauren Murphy
Payne |
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Midwest
Book Review
The
children's book ‘Just Because I Am’ is an excellent
introduction to self-esteem. Easy to understand
statements and enchanting full-color illustrations
invite young readers ages 3-8 to love and accept
themselves. They learn to respect their bodies and
acknowledge their needs. They name their feelings,
discover that everyone makes mistakes and hear that
it's okay to say "yes" and "no".
‘Just Because I Am’ is recommended for all libraries,
day-care centers, and homes where children depend
on adults for guidance and affirmation. |
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The
Moon Lady
by Amy Tan |
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a rainy afternoon, three sisters wish for the rain
to stop, wish they could play in the puddles, wish
for something, anything,
to do. So Ying-Ying, their
grandmother, tells them a tale from long ago. On
the night of the Moon Festival, when Ying-ying was
a little girl, she encountered the Moon Lady, who
grants the secret wishes of those who ask, and learned
from her that the best wishes are those you can
make come true yourself. Amazon.com
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Rechenka's
Eggs
by
Paricia Polacco |
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| A
warm tale of love and the unexpected from the bestselling
author of ‘The Keeping Quilt’. Old Babushka is preparing
her eggs for the Easter festival when she takes
in Rechenka, an injured goose, who shows her that
miracles really can happen. A Reading Rainbow Feature
Title. Full color. Amazon.com
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We're
Different, We're the Same
by Bobbi Jane Kates |
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| Who
better to teach young children about racial harmony
than the colorful crew from Sesame Street? Rhyming
text celebrates the racial rainbow, without which
the world would be so much less interesting and
wonderful. Full-color illustrations. |
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When
You Were Born in China: A Memory Book for
Children Adopted from China
by Sara Dorow |
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An excellent book to read to your children to help
explain what their story was before moving home.
It discusses the social situation in China, why
and how they got to the orphanage and up to the
point of being adopted. |
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Who's
in a Family?
by Robert Skutch |
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This
equal opportunity, open-minded picture book has
no preconceptions about what makes a family a family.
There's even equal time given to some of children's
favorite animal families. With warm and inviting
illustrations, this is a great book for that long
talk with a little person on your lap. Pencil and
watercolor illustrations.
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Adoption Resource Book
by
Lois Gilman (3rd revised edition) |
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| An
informed and practical guide to agency and independent
adoption, both domestic and international and how
they work. Includes state-by-state guide to adoption
agencies. Also information about preparing for and
raising the adopted child. |
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| Handbook For Single Adoptive Parents
by Hope Marindin
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| Information,
encouragement, comma and practical advice on the
processes of adoption for singles, as well as
financial aspects, life style changes, day care,
and health care. |
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| Books
on Separation and Attachment Issues |
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Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families
with Special Need Kids: A Guide for Parents and
Professionals
by
Gregory Keck and Regina Kupecky |
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| Assists
families in understanding children with special
needs. Provides insight and support along with helpful
ideas and suggestions. Very informative authors! |
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Building
the Bonds of Attachment: Awakening Love in Deeply
Troubled Children
by
Denise A. Hughes |
| This
book spells out some of the trials foster and adoptive
parents may find themselves up against with some
concrete ideas to use to remedy negative situations.
The book has ideas and strategies to help children
with attachment disorders so that they can have
the ability to function in a normal life. |
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| Highly
recommended books by one of our families... |
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Separation:
Anxiety and Anger
by
John Bowlby |
| The
experience of separation and the ensuing susceptibility
to anxiety, anger, and fear constitute the flip
side of the attachment phenomenon. In an authoritative
new foreword to
Bowlby's
classic study, Stephen Mitchell (who gives resonant
voice to the relational perspective in psychoanalysis)
bridges the distance between attachment theory
and the psychoanalytic tradition. |
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Attachment
by John Bowlby |
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| Bowlby's
magisterial trilogy analyzes the impact of attachment,
separation, and loss, and this first volume focuses
on the critical role of the bond between mother
and infant in emotional development. Allan Schore,
whose pioneering synthesis of neurobiology with
attachment research has shown how the brain gets
into the act, contributes a foreword that catapults
Bowlby's legacy into the new millennium. |
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Toddler Adoption, The Weaver’s Craft
by Mary Hopkins-Best
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| Written
by an adoptive mother, Hopkins-Best draws a magnificent
job of exploring many issues never discussed before
in adopting toddler children. It will prepare you
for every aspect of adopting toddlers! |
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The Broken Cord
by
Michael Dorris |
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| A
celebrated author gives his account of how he and
his family search for answers in dealing with his
adopted son with FAS. It is a heart-rending book
giving you much to think and feel about. |
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| The Primal Wound, Understanding the Adopted
Child
by Nancy Newton Verrier
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| A
very interesting book. The author is very knowledgeable
and insightful in exploring the process of being
adopted. Although somewhat technical at times it
addresses nearly every aspect of an adoptee’s world. |
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Launching
a Baby's Adoption: Practical Strategies for Parents
and Professionals
Midwest
Book Review |
| Launching
A Baby's Adoption incorporates anecdotal material
solicited from adoptive parents and professionals
throughout North America. Launching a Baby's Adoption
fills the need of single and coupled parents seeking
to adopt for information that can assist them
in practical ways to bring a baby into their families
and into their lives. Launching A Baby's
Adoption is a valuable addition
to the parenting collections of community libraries
and is "must" reading for anyone seeking
adoption as a means to enhancing their family
life. |
